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Grant stopped asking when I’d come home.
Instead, he asked, “What do you need from me this week?”
Sometimes nothing. Sometimes an extra daycare pickup. Once, I needed him to care for Ivy all Saturday because of a work deadline.
He helped without keeping score.
In counseling, we learned to discuss Ivy directly rather than communicate through her, avoid emotional accusations disguised as scheduling messages, and respect boundaries.
I learned that saying no didn’t require lengthy explanations.
A year after I moved out, Grant invited me for coffee.
Not for parenting arrangements or counseling.
Just coffee.
I knew what he wanted and went anyway.
He looked slightly older, softer, less certain.
“I’m going to ask you something,” he said.
“Okay.”
“Do you think we could ever try again?”
I gazed outside.
I’d imagined that conversation for months.
Sometimes
